Identifying The Real Reason You Succeed Or Not

“If you think you can, you can. If you think you can’t you are right".

- Mary Kay Ash

People who have what they want in their lives on a consistent basis tend to be people who understand what they can and cannot control. They do this by dividing things into three categories. Things that they:

  • Can directly control e.g. their own behaviours.

  • Have some influence over, but don’t completely control, e.g. what other people do.,

  • Don’t either control or have any influence over e.g. the weather.

The interesting thing is that people who are successful tend to focus most of their efforts on things that they can directly control, those things that they are directly responsibility for. They also tend to accept that if something is beyond their influence then there is little point in spending time on it.

In short people who get what they want focus on what they can do to achieve it and let other things go. In this way that have complete ownership for their situation and the results they produce.

This is also true of a person’s health and well-being and more specifically their weight. Those people who are successful at losing weight don’t blame their parents for teaching them poor eating habits or the genes they possess. They don’t blame the gym for its lack of equipment or poor staff. They look at themselves and consider how they are currently producing what they have in their lives and why.

To help you begin to understand how this can help you, I have asked you to record your behaviours, what you do and when you do it. In other words what are your eating habits, when do you exercise, etc. These behaviours will give you a good clue as to why you are getting the results you have got.

The next stage is to go slightly deeper and get an understanding of what causes you to behave the way you do. What you are looking for are the triggers that stimulate you to either behave the way you want to or not. For example, emotions often trigger people to eat particular foods. You might find that you eat certain foods when you are bored or upset.

Identifying the causes will also help you realise whether you are eating due to a physical need i.e. to satisfy your hunger or are you responding to psychological habits. Become aware of the difference.

What is stimulating the urge to eat, hunger or something else, such as the environment you are in, the person you are talking to and what you are talking about, the time of the day or the mood you are in.


Symptoms are those things that you can use to describe what is actually happening at this moment in time. It’s a bit like going to the Doctor, who then asks you to describe where the pain is or how it feels. You must remember though that the Doctor is not going to prescribe a remedy based on your symptoms, what he is doing is using the symptoms to find the cause.

This makes much more sense because it increases the chances of what he pre